Nudes. In the past ten years I feel they have become somewhat normalised. I have become accustomed to seeing “So and so’s nudes were leaked” on the Daily Mail or TMZ. However, with this coverage I feel a huge amount of pressure has been placed on girls. I mean it’s 2020 if you feel comfortable go girl. However, Some girls feel pressure to send nudes to guys when they ask or that you have to send them if you are in a relationship, but when you are a teenager I don’t think you are fully aware of the consequences sending nudes could lead to. Yes, some get lucky like Kim Kardashian gaining a reality show. I have a lot of respect for Kim but I feel her brand sets unrealistic images and scenarios. For many young people a leaked nude equals a job loss, a damaged reputation or in terms of school, bullying.
A common question I got asked in school was do you send.
Sphynx Cat aka’ Shynxie’ asked me for nudes when I was 14. Sphynx cat’s are typically sly creatures. They like to show off, and they are super skinny.
Sphynxie and I were best friends, you could say after a year of friendship I started to develop a crush. One night I was snap chatting Sphynxie and the question was asked. I remember being shocked and for a nano moment I didn’t know how to respond. I was shocked because I really trusted Sphynxie. I didn’t think Sphynxie would be the type to ask that ! I said no. A while later two of his friends asked the same question. Something about this seemed so off to me, I never spoke to his friends. I confronted them about it and they said it was a joke, that they were trying to test me to see if I would send them nudes. These same guys use to spread and show nudes of girls in my year all the time. They used nudes like trophies.
Long story short Sphynxie and I stopped being friends. A year later I heard a rumour circulating ‘that Sphynxie had sent my nudes to older years’.
I walked into school embarrassed and mortified, even though the rumours were completely false. I could feel the stares, walking into the locker room. I felt so betrayed, and angry.
What shocked me more was that the girls were worse in terms of spreading the rumour. This is where girls need to empower girls. Girls’ body shamming, and not showing respect for one another is a recipe for disaster. Uniting shows boys that it is not okay… it is not cool to body shame or use images as bragging material in the locker room.